... it IS about what you are not.
“You were not made to live like brute beasts, but to pursue virtue and knowledge” ― Dante Alighieri, Inferno
In my last post, A Gypsy in Auschwitz, I added at the very very bottom of the post a screen shot of a Chinese woman dancing on TikTok. No one mentioned noticing the picture. (Of course only 1-3 people comment on anything I write. Sad face emoji.) I’ll get back to the picture in a moment.
In my 73rd year I continue my battle to awaken the United States (and anyone else willing to listen) to the plight of women, the destruction of the feminine. Comedians like Bill Burr, whom I do actually find hilarious and illuminative, mock men like me for our concern about women. But I would say this to Bill, and other men and women, ‘the violence toward women and the feminine must stop.’
It isn’t just men who need to grasp this. Lauren Boebert is as bad as any ignorant male when she speaks of the “woke Democrats wanting to turn my boy into a sissy.” Boebert’s toxic masculine son, non-sissy, is now in trouble for 14 crimes including alleged felony identity theft. His manliness, or lack of feminine tones, will probably lead to his spending some quality time behind bars.
Why … why is it that people TRULY do not care about the violence perpetrated against women and the feminine in our country? Everyone knows the gruesome numbers, the statistics, so I won’t repeat them yet again.
What I DO KNOW is why women and the feminine continue to be mocked, ignored, violated, assaulted, forgotten, less than, regarded as unimportant … I have known for decades. I have been asked to serve as the keynote speaker at conferences, university gatherings, businesses and even once as the keynote speaker at a college graduation ceremony to pontificate on the topic. I have won awards for my work. Appeared in a text book on the topic. And yet, and yet, nothing has changed. Women and the feminine are not truly important in the eyes of our culture, our society. Violence towards women and feminine tones continues to thrive. Sexual assault, rape, kidnapping, murder … beating LGBTQ people to a bloody pulp … usurping the rights of women or the feminine toned, two-spirited, or gay, or trans, or simply mocking men not manly enough is a dangerous and deadly reality in 2024.
One in four women in college WILL BE sexually or physically assaulted and or raped during their four years. That is a statistic that has not changed in over 50 years. 50 years!! No university, not one, has the ‘mitigation of sexual assault and/or rape of the women and the feminine’ as a main objective or goal in their strategic plan. Such a goal is POSSIBLE … it is PROBABLE … is ATTAINABLE. Sexual assault can be wiped out.
But it never will be … even by woke female administrators … trust me I know. I’ve been fired by women administrators as many times as by male administrators. Woke females are as blind to the reality and in many cases worse than men. Because, because, they are playing the man’s game. I’ve shared my stories before … ‘We want you to become the Dean of Fun, stop causing problems by bringing our dirty laundry to the forefront. Men will be men.”
A quick aside here that may seem a non-sequitur . The top ten billionaires are all men. 9 out of 10 are white males. The people of color who are lesser billionaires are in the field of sports or entertainment.
A billion. Do you know what a billion is? Ok, now consider hundreds of billions. Yes, hundreds of billions. The top billionaires are worth hundreds of billions. The first trillionaire is not that far off. That is a sickness. No matter your skill set … no human with a conscience or a soul is worth hundreds of billions.
That … that kind of wealth is an example of shadow masculine tones. I contend that any human with a soul would look around the world, or our country even, and find a way to distribute the wealth. Distribute the wealth to teachers, to counselors, to health care workers, to children in need, to the very poor … there are so many ways to exhibit ‘feminine tones’ … the balance necessary to be a human. The feminine tones of empathy, love, compassion and sharing. Those tones don’t exist with many men in our country. Thus the statistics of violence to self, others, women and nature.
Even in the souls of female college administrators there is a lack of understanding of the problem. Every college ‘bench marks’ every other college even though every college is still failing at mitigating the problem. It is insanity. An insanity that costs the very lives and the health of 25% of the women in our country.
If any college administrator declared … we will not tolerate sexual assault, rape, physical assault of women or the feminine on our campus … then and only then would things change. Because you see, the change isn’t about blue lights, and punishing persecutors, or more cameras, or one hour presentations at Student Orientation. Any human who takes the time to critically think about the crux of the problem will come to this solution …. “Men must be taught how to respect the feminine within themselves, others, women and nature. Men must be taught to be balanced people of character who no longer see women as TOYS but as human beings.”
No university will undertake this because, 1) Alumni males want their boys to sow their wild oats and let men be men, 2) EVERY SINGLE ADMINISTRATOR and FACULTY MEMBER in this country will tell you “We don’t have time to teach men to be men. That is not our job. Our job is teach the boys to be engineers (or whatever)” and, 3) we don’t have that problem at our university.
But I can prove a key reason of why colleges should, yes should, take the time and energy to educate males. Employers DO NOT REALLY CARE about what skills their incoming new employee (college recruit) has learned. What employers WANT and NEED are employees of character who will be productive and NOT harm themselves, others and the company. Consider what a sexual harassment lawsuit costs a company not only in dollars but in reputation.
I KNOW, not believe, that the first university that teaches their young men how to be balanced men of character and integrity will have every employer knocking at their door. I KNOW that to be true. I’ve witnessed it.
So, all of that said. Why did I include a picture of a young Chinese woman dancing on TikTok? Because our Western illness of turning women into toys is now infesting the world. Hundreds, if not thousands, of women in China are being paid (very little) to dance on screen for money. The women are young, beautiful, fantastic people who cannot find work that pays as well as this job. And who are the customers? Take a wild guess. Who owns the companies and controls the women? Take a wild guess.
I have taken the opportunity to befriend a number of the women. They choose to perform, yes. But they have few other choices that pay as well. Many are college educated or making their way through college. How long can a woman hold such a job? Again, you know what the answer is. How does such a job integrate into a culture where many young Chinese women are dedicated to helping their parents and grandparents? How does such a job compute in a country where women are shy, quiet and demure? What is the bigger long-term consequence of this Western drive for ‘woman as toy?’
The answer is NOT complicated. Teach men to be balanced humans of character and integrity. Teach men feminine tones and teach women masculine tones. It works. It has worked for centuries. It is called initiation. And I have worked with many men and women who will tell you, this form of education works. And is needed.
In the end the greatest feminine of them all is being assaulted and raped, Mother Earth. The climate crisis. The sixth extinction. All traced back to unbalanced males who believe they can control everything and anything. “Grab them by the pussy.” That is one of our candidates for president again. The other just kills women and children. But it is a belief held by many men. “We hope there are many sluts around but we want marry a goddess.”
I will write more about this. As always I CHALLENGE ANY UNIVERSITY to hire me, let me do my work, and within two years you will find sexual assault, assault and rape will have diminished significantly. Within four years it will be a thing of the past because the students themselves will state, “We don’t do that here. We respect women here. Men are men here.”
Share this post please. What I sincerely care about is proving, before I die, that violence towards women (as toy) is not necessary. That it is an illusion created by unbalanced men.
… if you are not balanced you are a danger to yourself and others.
… if you are greedy, violent, controlling, a liar, a thief, a hoarder then you are a danger to yourself and others.
… if you value sharing, empathy, kindness, balance and higher order thinking you are a balanced human.
… if you are not a person of color, a woman, or gay …. take a long critical look at the history of war, at violence towards the feminine and you will see it is unbalanced males who have wreaked this havoc.
If you wish I will write about what we MUST do. Help me get hired so that I can prove this to our society. Help me prove this to a first college. That first college that undertakes this change process will become THE BENCH MARK for other colleges. Have the courage to change what is happening to our females and to the feminine.
Much love
TJ
Perverted!!!!! Perverted mindset. All of it!